Wednesday, July 13, 2005

Black Women's "Ownership" of Me

I don't know why but lately I've been noticing young (very young) White girls' eyes drifting my way a bit at the gym. Not much but it has been happening. How young? Like, they're still in high school and shit. Now, I don't think it's because I'm gettin all swole and shit because I'm one of the smaller (not the smallest) guys there. I've NEVER been one to attract white women, NEVER. Given, these aren't white women but still, I've always been looked over by "those people". Anyway...


As everyone knows, I'm Honduran and damn proud of it. I'm always willing to date any race because I feel neutral with my nationality and unclassified race. **note: I'm Latino but if asked to claim a race, i.e. Black, White, Pacific Islander, etc, I don't know what to claim because my lineage includes everything. During the 2000 census for example, they asked nationality (Honduran), ethnicity (Latino), and race (??)** Even though I'm willing to date anyone, I seem to have most play and a GREAT attraction to Black mamis. Now, often I've been mistaken for Black down here in New Orleans because of this place having so many Creoles; I can't count how many times people have looked at me and tried to figure out what I am. I never sweat it because I actually love the attention that this mystery brings. Some people have been so sure I'm Black though that I've actually been on dates with "Black power" girls and listened to their "I love my Black king" and "I couldn't date outside of my race" speeches, without them even knowing that they are dating outside of their race at that very moment. The biggest smile would form on my face, seriously. It was hilarious. I'd go with the flow though. I wouldn't let them know until the end of the date, AFTER they'd agreed to another date... shoot, I'd even wait after that first deep kiss at the end of the night. After they'd agree to the date I'd be like "Cool. Ya know I'm Latino, right?" Of course, they'd be in disbelief and we'd both crack up afterwards. I'd get another kiss and be out.


I've enjoyed this because I liked that they got to know me, liked me, and opened their eyes to another culture. It's a cool thing I tells ya.


What trips me out is that I've gone out to lunch with White female friends and the looks I've gotten from Black women could literally burn a hole through a phone book. It's hilarious to me because they are putting claim on someone they can't put claim on. No one belongs to anyone but you know the type of claim I'm talking about. Plus, some of my Black female friends give me this look... no, THE look, when I tell them a certain White chick at my job or at the gym is attractive or that I almost asked a certain White chica out. I mean they look at me like I'm a fucking sellout to the Black race. It completely cracks me up, seriously. Even a popular blogger that I dated gave me THE look when I told her that Amy Lee is a cutie. And don't talk about if a White woman looks in my direction while I'm on a date with a Black mami. THE look is given in the direction of that White chic.


Despite that the looks are those of wrath, I still find them flattering. It's nice to be cherished enough by "THE lookers" that they don't want me to steer away... even though I'm not one of "them."

[ TheSaga | 5:26 AM | ]